One observation I made recently is that humans of our day and age confuse being free with not taking any responsibility. It feels like for many people the idea of freedom is attached to the idea of not feeling responsible for feelings, actions, reactions. This makes me think of trees. If not for their roots, trees would not be able to produce fruits and thus expand. Such relationships where partners do not actually take the responsibility of their actions and the projections they reflect on their partners (projections that are rooted in their previous experiences)  the entire interaction becomes a fruitless tree where partners only enjoy day to day pleasures like touching, making love and casual conversation. However in time these things are not enough to hold one in a relationship. The unity can not happen only through physicality but needs to expand towards the heart and mind as well. First of all the eargerness to discover all these fields is what attracts two people to eachother, as physical beings we are attracted to one another but in time realize that this is not the only thing there is to that person.

Where is her mind, where is her heart? How often are we fully aware of these areas? As a woman I have just recently decided to be with men who have the courage to actually look at these areas that are beyond physical vision. The passion, the interest, the joy and excitement you feel when meeting someone new is truly priceless as long as the person you are interacting with is in the same channel with you.

That brings me to channels. Just like radio channels, which channel am I in? Am I aware of the fact that whichever channel I am in will actually determine the experiences I will have?

What kind of a channel do I prefer to live in?

Through the channel of love, care and passion, wonder, joy and understanding, empathy, growth and mutual expansion, inspiration and through taking fearless responsibility. I hereby manifest that I will romantically only interact with men who are in the same channel with me from this point onwards in my life.

And here are some notes for all of us:

PLEASE TAKE RESPONSBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS AND FEELINGS. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR WHAT YOU REFLECT ON PEOPLE. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY WHILE STARTING A RELATIONSHIP. TAKE RESPONSIBILTY WHILE ENDING IT. SPEAK YOUR TRUTH. BE OPEN ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL AND EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS AS THEY COME. DO NOT ACCUMULATE AND PUKE YOUR FEELINGS ON PEOPLE. DEAL WITH THEM AS THEY DAWN ON YOU. SHARE THEM.

SHARING IS SUCH A GIFT. IT TURNS INTO SUCH A DANCE, EVEN THOUGH THIS MIGHT MEAN THAT THE RELATIONSHIP WILL BE OVER. DO NOT STAY WITH PEOPLE OR ENVIRONMENTS THAT DO NOT SERVE YOU ANYMORE.

KNOW YOUR WORTH.

YOUR WORTH IS NOT RELATED TO YOUR PARTNER’S ACTIONS. IT IS NOT HIS/HER ACTIONS THAT DETERMINE HOW WORHTY YOU ARE. IT IS YOU AND ONLY YOU AND ONLY YOU WHO SETS HIS/HER OWN WORTH.

STAY AROUND PEOPLE WHO KNOW YOUR WORTH, WHO SUPPORT YOU AS A BEING WITHOUT DEMANDING CONSTANT ADJUSTMENTS. LET YOURSELF BE YOU SO YOUR PARTNER CAN BE HIMSELF/HERSELF.

PRACTICE BEING YOU SO YOUR PARTNER CAN PRACTICE BEING HIMSELF.